“I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity. ” –Albert Einstein
I think I’ve had more alone time this winter than I’ve ever had, in any season, in my entire life.
I didn’t plan it that way. The people I am housesitting for said it would be okay if I had guests, and I put the invitation out there. At least half a dozen friends and family members expressed an interest. Ocean-front property on Orcas Island? Sure! Sounds like fun! But in one way or another, somehow all those plans fell through.
Even though I’ve been on Orcas Island for four months, I haven’t made new friends. I’ve put out a few feelers – introduced myself to neighbors, attended a few concerts and other town social events, entered an exhibition. Everyone has been nice, I’ve had some interesting conversations, but that’s as far as it goes.
Everyone has full lives. They have no reason to go out of their way to befriend a here today/gone tomorrow transient housesitter. It’s kind of a waste of their precious time, even if she does seem to be a nice lady! I get it.
I must admit I could have tried harder. Although I am outgoing and find it easy to talk to strangers in my work persona as a park ranger, in my personal life I’m kind of shy. I didn’t put myself in any situation that would take me out of my comfort zone. I didn’t get an outside job. I didn’t go to the bar.
The truth is, I haven’t tried harder to make new friends because I really have been enjoying my solitude!
“Solitude is creativity’s best friend, and solitude is refreshment for our souls.” -Naomi Judd
Everyone needs alone time. Solitude sparks creativity. It can renew your soul. It allows time for daydreams and imagination, reflection and invention.
There is freedom in solitude. No one to tell you what you should be doing or where you should be going. Instead, it’s all up to you.
Some activities require solitude. Reading, writing, and meditating come to mind. There are other activities where going solo brings immense rewards but at the price of much greater risk. For instance, as a park ranger, I often have to tell people that they should hike with others. It’s much safer. Yet I, and most rangers I know, revel in solitary treks. It’s very important to understand and acknowledge the risks of solitude and to be aware of the possible consequences of your actions when pursuing these kinds of activities solo.
For many people, it’s not easy to get that alone time we all need. The demands of work, family and friends can consume our lives. Solitude becomes a rare and precious event. If this sounds like you, it’s especially important to carve yourself out some alone time, even if you have to make a date with yourself and schedule it.
“If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.” – Jean-Paul Sartre
There’s a big difference between solitude and loneliness. Solitude is the positive application of alone time. Loneliness and depression happen when you dwell on the negative aspects of being alone. Solitude has a purpose.
“I find it wholesome to be alone the greater part of the time.” – Henry David Thoreau
Some people need more solitude than others. They need their space. I’m in that category. So are many of my friends back home in McCarthy. A friend of mine once said, “McCarthy is where loners go to be social.”
McCarthy is very social in the summer, but most residents deal with a lot of alone time in the winter. I find it interesting that two of my friends from McCarthy have also written about the pleasures of solitude this week. Jon Erdman of the Wrangell Mountains Center wrote a post about the effects of solitude. Kristen Link is a natural history artist and science illustrator. One of the prompts in her latest newsletter encourages other artists to draw what silence looks like. I don’t draw, but the following image is my answer to that prompt.
Perhaps that is why I feel okay about my season of solitude. It’s winter, a natural time to draw resources inward, to go quiet, and be dormant. The quiet time is necessary for future growth.
Spring will soon be here, a time for new growth, new connections, the ground prepared and spirit renewed by that season of dormancy. In April I will be traveling, embracing old friends and new experiences. I look forward to my spring travels, but I will also cherish this final month of alone time.
Thank you to Ann-Christine of Leya for this week’s Len-Artists Photo Challenge, Alone Time.
A beautiful post Dianne, I love that you’ve come to cherish your alone time this season and that you can also look forward to the company you’ll keep in the spring. Your thoughts about the positive aspects of alone time are spot-on and your images are glorious. Enjoy the rest of your stay and your solitude as we look forward to following your next adventure!
Another beautiful post, Dianne, it’s always a treat to open your thoughtful posts. Images of wild beauty and words of wisdom. You enjoy your solitude and your visits to friends, and mix them to your liking. A great life, but a life few people can realise. I love all your images, and what Silence looks like – I couldn’t have chosen a better image.
Beautifully expressed and illustrated. This theme seems made for you and your winter experiences, not to mention your style of photography. I especially love the image you’ve selected for ‘Silence’ but they are all lovely.
I like this essay as much as I like the photos. I NEED my alone time in nature.